I generally try to be a positive person. This is in part because negativity seems to be the only thing that sells news stories, and partly as a way to stave off my personal tendency to get lost in sadness.
The thing is, not everything in life is strictly positive.
As a dyslexic, I know all too well the challenges others like me face. I remember clearly how crushing school was, and I hurt every time I hear that kids are still suffering through what I did.
As someone told me long ago, no small child should hate school. It should be a place where the love of learning is fostered. It shouldn’t be a place where spirits are crushed.
It wasn’t until later that I learned of the strengths dyslexia gives me. I didn’t know how intimately my unique way of processing information was linked to how I solve problems and make connections.
As a woman, I know too well the dangers of existing in public places, much less having the nerve to speak my opinion and stand up for myself. Thanks to some terrible experiences with former neighbors, I’m always apprehensive whenever someone new moves in nearby. It’s not right that I should feel that way, but after some of my experiences, trust is something that’s hard earned.
On the other hand, I’ve discovered just how supportive, protective and compassionate other women can be. I’ve found just how strong we women are, and I include trans-women, and those of other demographics from my own in that.
There are so many other issues tied up in this topic, but this entry would turn into a novel if I went into them, now.
My greatest frustration is the constant pressure to be either constant sunshine or perpetual storm clouds. Life is seldom either or. That’s why I try to strike some sort of balance.
In many situations, dyslexia can be a disability, but it’s an advantage in just as many, if not more. Being a woman is similar. In many situations, it’s a disadvantage, but it’s an advantage in just as many, if not more.
I’d love to see more balance in the world. Maybe if I keep striving for that in my life, perhaps others will follow that example.