Thanks to the reading I’ve done on the issue of concept of consent in gender-based relations, every time I see the word “No” I automatically think of bodily autonomy and a person’s right to be respected.
The thing is, there’s a time in all of our lives when we’re told “no” when we attempt something to better ourselves. We’re not doing anything to hurt anyone else, as in the case of a man pressuring a woman into doing something she’d rather not, but instead trying to challenge ourselves, as in the case of taking a difficult class.
I’ve found that with dyslexia and other learning disabilities we’re told no from an early age when we want to attempt something other children were doing. For me, the most glaring example was in learning another language. For others, it could be taking a literature or science course.
Over time, I’ve learned that there are times to push back, or to find a way around the obstacles put in my path. Just because someone else doesn’t think I can reach my goals doesn’t mean I have to believe them. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of waiting the other party out.
Yes, I am dyslexic, but that’s not all I am. Some people can’t see past that label, or others applied to me, but the limitations they mentally put on me aren’t ultimately worth my attention.
That’s part of the beauty of having wiring like dyslexia. You’re forced to learn your limits, then you must learn how to surpass them in whatever arena you’re interested in. You get faced with walls early on, and in many ways, you have a head start on everyone else.
Provided what you want to do isn’t harmful, there’s no reason you can’t keep pushing for your goals, regardless of hurdles put before you.