|If you can find who said this quote, feel free to let me know. I couldn’t find anything definitive, so Anonymous it is for now.|
Right now, we’re in that odd limbo between Christmas and New Year’s. Many of us are still reeling from lots of rich food and celebration, while looking forward to whatever New Year’s plans we may have.
Some of us are thinking about resolutions, lost in nostalgia of the year past or enduring a low level of confusion about where the time went.
It can be a difficult spot to be in.
As for me, I kind of fall into the resolution and confusion categories. In addition to getting cracking on some home renovation, I’m putting together a tentative schedule of steps towards accomplishing a few big goals this coming year.
Our aspirations and the steps in reaching them can be overwhelming. When things don’t necessarily go as planned, as they seldom do when things like dyslexia enters the picture, the tendency to beat ourselves up about it can do far more harm than good.
Unfortunately, when you learn differently and see the world differently, accomplishing what you’d like to seems far harder than it does for the people around you. This is true in many ways, but what that struggle gives us is unique gifts that we can do amazing things with.
Of course, it’s hard to look forward to these great unknowns when you’re in the midst of your own personal war, though.
Over the years of my struggle, I’ve learned that by stopping for a moment and consciously looking for something that makes me feel a tiny bit better helps me get through the rough patches. Even if it helps me feel better for a minute, that boost is usually just enough to push through the battles I find myself up against.
That’s why I included the quote at the beginning of this entry.
The funny thing about this shift in thought was that when I allow myself those small breaks to admire the glint of light through the window or texture of fabric under my fingertips, the war transforms into something less threatening, like a huge puzzle.
The thing with puzzles is that they have solutions built into them, and the hard part is in finding the way to it. It’s not life or death, and the reward isn’t fear of another battle. The prize is accomplishment, new skills and maybe a renewed will to try something different next time.
Although this is my go-to method of coping, I still need to be reminded of it from time to time, too.
However, it has worked wonderfully for me, and if you choose to try it this coming New Year, I hope it can help you, too.