HomebullyingOctober Is Also Anti-Bullying Month

Well, that’s news to me. I found out about it from blog entry from the Teaching Authors blog. The story related by the author does a wonderful job of showing that bullying can happen to anyone, for any reason.

The majority of people I know as an adult have been bullied at some time for various reasons. I know I was for the majority of middle school. Before my little brother was transferred to a new school, I remember standing up for him, too.

We were both small and thin for our ages, simply because of our genetic predispositions, and we both went to special ed for different reasons. I had to go for part of the day for my dyslexia, while he was enrolled in more of a full time program because of his intellectual disability and speech problems.

The kids were pretty brutal to us both. I can’t remember exactly what they were doing to him that day, but I do remember standing up at the front of the bus and glaring at each child still on the bus. I yelled, “Just think about how YOU would feel if someone did to YOU what you were doing to him!”

That bus was very quiet as the kids all stared at me in shock. Moments later, I left.

I believe things stayed pretty peaceful afterwards, and he was transferred a few weeks later.

It didn’t take too long for the bullying to get bad again.

I coped by withdrawing at first, but ended up talking back before too long. There were one or two occasions when I fought back physically, and one of the worst bullies ended up needing a couple of stitches because I’d scratched her so deeply. I never got in trouble, since she was already known as a problem child to the higher ups and the incident was never officially reported.

Getting physical isn’t something I’m proud of, but it did give me a little respite.

Looking back, as bad as the torment was, the sense of loneliness was worse. I felt as if there was no one I could go to. I felt as if no one cared. I was on my own.

None of that was true, but it felt that way. No child should feel like that.

Bullying is a problem we all must deal with. It doesn’t matter what color your skin is, who you’re attracted to, whether your physical sex matches up to what gender your brain identifies as, the make up of your neurology, your religion or anything else.

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live in peace. You deserve to go to a safe school and get the education you need. You deserve to use and enjoy the Internet without fear of assault of any kind.

Please, if you notice bullying going on, don’t let it continue by doing nothing. Here are some resources to help you take the right course of action:

NCLD’s Page About Bullying & Learning Disabilities – It also has a free e-book that I have yet to read.

stopbullying.gov -This government run page has a lot of fantastic information about how to intervene with bullying in action, how to support those affected and how to prevent it. It also has a very handy drop down feature which leads to pages for each state’s anti-bullying laws.

Resources put together for parents and kids put together by the author of Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy, Emily Bazelon.


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