HomefailureThe Value of Failure

I’ve been having a bit of a rough time today. I’m not feeling my best, and when I called to report the flickering streetlight to the electric company, I completely blanked on what my phone number is when the lady asked for it. I’ve had that number for something like 6 years, now. So embarrassing.

I just wanted to shrivel up and sit in a corner for a while.

So, my mindset wasn’t at its best until a few minutes ago, when I read this article about writing and rejection. Be warned, the tone is pretty hard and there’s a sprinkling of profanities, so if those sorts of things bother you, don’t bother clicking. It got me thinking about the struggle everyone with some sort of learning difference has to deal with.

Although we’re all fighting to make life at least a little easier for others like us in an attempt to leave the world a better place, those little kids suffering through experiences of failed tests, irritated adults and the horrible feeling failure brings, are learning valuable lessons. We each must suffer through failure after failure until we can enjoy the thrill that success gives us.

It’s like the concept of yin and yang. Within each of our experiences, there’s negative and positive. In this case, failure is the negative at first, but the lessons it gives us is the positive. How can we grow strong without being broken down first?

When I was young, I was told on more than one occasion that I worked hard to fail, and it often felt as though everyone around me thought I was worthless. I wasn’t worth the effort any more. It was like they just wanted to put me on a plane and get rid of me. That harsh treatment, whether it was intended or not, did a great job of breaking me down to my core elements. I needed to experience the excruciating process of being ripped to pieces, gathering the fractured bits of my being together and gluing them back together in whatever configuration worked to become who I am today.

A long day of climbing requires a moment of celebration!
Hiking the rough trails of Lake Superior is nothing compared
to the academic struggles many of us face.
(Photo credit goes to the hubby – please do not use without
permission)

I’ve come to accept the fact that yes, I will fail at some things. Some of those things I can leave behind, knowing I at least tried them, but confident that I don’t necessarily need that particular skill to get by. Other things, like writing or my crafting, are worth the constant struggle. Those two things are worth practicing, refining and fighting the pain of rejection until I finally get the acceptance I desire.

That’s all a part of human nature. We each need to figure out what it is we need to feel fulfilled in life. We need to figure out which battles are worth fighting and which ones to abandon.

When it comes to living with LD of any kind, we must learn those lessons early on. We must also learn the value of accepting support of those who came before us. As difficult as our current struggles may be, there have been people before us who dealt with something similar. Those individuals are extremely valuable in helping us get through the current fight.

Eventually, we become those individuals, and we can pass the gifts of inspirational resiliency on to those who come after us. When we turn that failure into a cycle of positivity, the pain in our worlds will grow into strength, and that strength will blossom into moments of joy.

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